A Narcissist in The House?
Do you have or is your household in chaos because of Narcissistic
behaviour?
So, the article below are not all my words however I was able to find them, in different segments and put them together in searching for answers, I found great inspiration from them which gave me a mind set to combat a very difficult personality.
So, the intention of this blog is to capture an answer and remember
sometimes the answer comes in a form that enlightens or inspires you to seek the final answer, or sometimes the answer comes in the form of a question. The answer in this case is Narcissist can not be rebuked, knowing them is the first step, confrontation will not help just a complete understanding of your own mind to build the strength to put up the wall and close them out to create an inner sanctuary is a must.
Let me just tell you, here’s a Christian response to that nobody is
expendable. And pride goes before a fall. And this is how God teaches us humility by disciplining us when we allow pride to get hold of us. And the narcissist is in that category.
And unfortunately, narcissists aren’t quick to learn. When they do fall, it’s everyone else’s fault, it’s not their fault, they’re just purely the victim. And if you were involved in any way, well, you’re the problem. And people who are soft hearted and empathetic, sometimes take the blame themselves because the narcissist can successfully convince them that, “You’re the whole problem here.”
But eventually those people do wake up and that’s where that whole cottage industry of how to recover from a narcissistic relationship, that’s the justification for it. And any psychologists you talk to about narcissism, they’ll know something about them.
So, the narcissist also deals with disappointments when they don’t get their way, again, because they’re the center of universe. So, they usually deal with disappointment with anger. And it’s usually beyond just normal anger, its rage, and everyone’s walking on eggshells around them because you just never know when they’re going
to get upset. And it shows on their face, it’s a red face, its clenched fists, it’s a raised voice and so forth.
And again, everyone who knows them is always walking on eggshells
around them because, you just never know when they’re going to blow up. And what’s so strange about the narcissist is that as fast as they can turn it on, they can turn it off. And they go right back into that charming mode again and it’s like it never happened. And people who are their victims, within their sphere of influence, they’re saying, “What just happened? What just happened?” It hit us, it hit me, but now it’s gone, did I see that rightly? Is something wrong with me?
The narcissist, they’re often great gas lighters, and if you can look up that term, it’s an interesting term, but basically, they’re causing you to question your perceptions, that your perceptions can’t be right, because their perceptions are right. And they really play mind games with people.
I’m looking at a website that is, all these articles by psychologists and so forth, to look at the classic definition of the narcissist and here’s another one, “they need constant praise and admiration.” Now, as I go through these traits, you realize of course that we’re all narcissists to a small degree, at least. Because we’re all imperfect beings and frail and fragile and we all do appreciate encouragement and affirmation.
But the narcissist takes it to a much higher level than that. And if you don’t give them the admiration and affirmation that they believe that they are due, oh my goodness, you’re going to hear from them. And again, it’s all your fault. You’re not affirming, you’re not supportive, there’s something wrong with you.
But something is wrong with the narcissist. They just have an excessive need for admiration. And so, they tend to gather people around them who feed them that admiration. And if you don’t fall into that category, again, you’ll hear from them, and you will find yourself before long, persona non grata, because that’s not the kind of people the narcissist wants around. They want people who admire them and are always telling them what a great job they’re doing, what a great person they are, and if you try to practice, as a Christian, any degree of confrontation, oh, you’re going to hit a brick wall. You’re going to hit a brick wall.
A Message
“For there are many rebellious people, full of meaningless talk and deception, they must be silenced, because they are disrupting whole households by teaching things they ought not to teach—and that for the sake of dishonest gain. This saying is true. Therefore,rebuke them sharply, so that they will be sound in the faith. Also pay no attention to myths or to the merely human commands of those who reject the truth. To the pure, all things are pure, but to those who are corrupted and do not believe, nothing is pure. In fact, both their minds and consciences are corrupted. They claim to know God, but by their actions they deny him. They are detestable, disobedient, and unfit for doing anything good.”“You must be hospitable, one who loves what is good, who is self-controlled, upright, and disciplined. You must hold firmly to the trustworthy message as it has been taught, so that you can encourage others by sound doctrine and refute those who oppose it.”…..St. Paul.
“I sincerely hope that reading this helps the many people that need it, it is a difficult topic to research but I believe there is enough in here to help you get an answer…TWM–>”
Becoming One 